Why do weddings have top tables?
This week we kick off our blog with an article by our founder Nicola Walters. This blog post is particularly personal to Nicola as it not only describes how Nicola organised her own wedding, it is the whole reason Nicola invented onits!
Nicola is best known for her international troubleshooting and her equestrian skills (including Team GB 2003 at the World Le Trec Championships in Belgium). When it comes to doing things right Nicola is at the forefront of challenging the norm and demanding the best.
Nicola’s motto is “Anything is possible, the question is: are we prepared to do what it takes to achieve it”. Well here Nicola challenges the traditional wedding top table and asks “Is there a better way?”
Is there a better way?
Have you ever wondered why the bride, groom and family sit at the top table whilst the guests, some of whom have traveled hundreds of miles just to be there, are sitting further away than you could throw an elephant a banana across the room. In fact the only people the bride and groom get to talk to are their husband/wife and their best man/matron of honour…the 2 people they probably spend the most time talking to already. Indeed sometimes it can feel as though the wedding party are at a separate event to the rest of the guests.
Shouldn’t the bride and groom be at the centre of the event?
I had the privilege of attending 2 glorious weddings in the same year and shortly after I too became engaged. My (now husband) and I decided that if people were going to travel from afar to help us celebrate our marriage we were determined to be at the hub of the party not merely an observer that was paying 50% of the bill.
Can we learn from the Knights?
Knights of the round table had it right when it came to seating plans. Everyone in a circle, everyone with equal standing and everyone able to have a voice in the discussion. So…how do you seat 46 guests around a table where everyone can be part of the conversation. Well you can’t. Well not unless you are the United Nations and have invested in some serious technology and with the cost of weddings nowadays I doubt anyone’s budget can stretch that far.
Can you see the whole picture?
The answer was simple, it just took a bit of thought and looking at things from a different angle. It was so much easier getting things up on the board, not just being able to see the picture but to see the whole picture, furthermore I could move things around, adapting my plan as I went.
What is the answer?
What if the guest tables were sat around the top table and what if the top table could sit with their backs to the top table. Indeed what if the top table was round, would we even need a top table if the wheel could rotate.
Build a Wedding Wheel with onits
Taking the onits I was able to permeate multiple options and building on the “hub” concept I created the Wedding Wheel. Guests would sit at 6 rectangular tables of 7 (the spokes) with one of the wedding party sat at its head (the hub). Over a 3 hour period hub would rotate clockwise every 30 minutes allowing each of the top table to speak with every guest.
How would you use onits to build your dream wedding plan? Have you had any wedding disasters that could have benefited from better organisation or did your wedding run like clockwork?
We’d love to hear your wedding organisation stories.
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